1. Be careful: tell only those you trust. Addicts say that in deciding whether to tell someone, they key criterion is this: how do you trust that person?
2. Wait. Even after having decided to tell someone, take time to think over your decision before actually going through with it.
A few of us at the Sexual Recovery Institute had the pleasure of attending MaleSurvivor’s bi-annual “Healing & Hope” international conference over the weekend. The conference was held at the Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City.
How do you work through feelings of guilt and shame? First, you identify what those feelings are.
You feel guilt over something you do. If you tell someone a lie, you may feel guilty. You can overcome those feelings of guilt, however, by apologizing or making amends. Think of guilt as a moral conscious: If I know I’m going to feel guilty after I’ve done something … I might be less inclined to do it.
Step 1
Become a young sports superstar. Make sure your family teaches you the importance of being loved for performance, rather than who you are. Improve upon your talent but stop growing emotionally.
Following up his LA-CAMFT presentation about cybersex, Rob Weiss will be speaking at another LA-CAMFT workshop this Friday, March 12. This lecture will offer more in-depth direction on how to assess, diagnose, and treat cybersex, relationship betrayal, and online porn addiction resulting from Internet porn abuse, online infidelity, compulsive sexuality, and involvement with multiple anonymous partners–concerns that are increasingly present in clients seeking therapy today.
Rob Weiss has been confirmed to speak at the BFI Summit on “Advanced Clinical Training for Therapists and Counselors” held in Savannah, Georgia from March 4-6, 2010. His Saturday morning keynote will be titled, “Lettermans and Tigers and Sanfords, Oh my: Understanding the Treatment of Serial Infidelity, Sex, Porn and Love Addiction.” The following is a description:
