If you have been affected by someone else's sexual behavior, you can find help for yourself, whether or not that person seeks recovery from sexual addiction. These questions, as adapted from S-Anon, are designed to help you consider whether you could benefit from some guidance and support of your own.

Instructions

Check each "Yes" response as appropriate, and then click on the "Submit" button at the bottom.

Questions

1. Have you often felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by someone else's sexual conduct?
   YES
2. Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear that he or she will leave you?
   YES
3. Have you sometimes found yourself searching for clues about someone else's sexual behavior?
   YES
4. Have you ever fantasized, obsessed or worried about someone else's sexual problems?
   YES
5. Have you ever made threats to others or promises to yourself ("If this happens again, I'll leave.") that you did not carry out?
   YES
6. Have you ever tried to control somebody else's sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?
   YES
7. Has your involvement with another person or their sexual behavior ever affected your relationship with your children, your co-workers or other friends or family members?
   YES
8. Have you often lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person's sexual conduct?
   YES
9. Have you had money problems because of someone else's sexual behavior?
   YES
10. Have you engaged in sexual behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, or is physically dangerous, fearing that if you don't the sexaholic will leave you?
    YES
11. Have you ever felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not true when talking with the sexaholic?
    YES
12. Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone else's sexual behavior?
    YES
13. Have you often used sex to keep peace in the family or smooth over problems?
    YES
14. Does sex (for example, thinking about it, doing it, talking about it, worrying about it) play an all-consuming role in the relationship?
    YES
15. Have you ever felt abandoned emotionally because of your partner's use of pornography or masturbation?
    YES
16. Have you ever helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or feared that this kind of thing could happen?
    YES
17. Have you often thought that the sexaholic's behavior was caused by other people, such as friends or sexual partners? by society in general? by his/her job, religion, or birth family?
    YES
18. Have you ever suspected that anyone was inappropriately sexually interested in any of your children?
    YES
19. Do you feel alone in your problem?
    YES
20. Do you feel that your partner/spouse's sexual behavior(s) will continue no matter what you say or feel?
    YES