Dora is a classic “bad girl” who pursues excitement at all costs. She hooks up with strangers she met online and in bars, and meets men she doesn’t know in their apartments, never considering that these behaviors could be dangerous. She has sex however and whenever she wants.

On more than one occasion, Dora has done something she regrets. Safe sex is optional, even though she has had multiple abortions and/or STDs. She likes to get high and can’t say no to unexpected threesomes and S&M, even when she feels scared or uncomfortable. Her life revolves around men, sex and partying.

“Real relationships” are a boring waste of time in Dora’s mind. This way of thinking protects her from getting hurt. Chances are Dora was hurt or disappointed by someone she truly cared for, or an important figure in her life scarred her deeply when she was young. Keeping it light and fun keeps her emotionally safe – and keeps a steady supply of men knocking on her door.

Why She Seeks Treatment

Dora’s “player” lifestyle has landed her in dangerous situations and she is genuinely afraid of where her behavior could take her. Perhaps a stranger at a bar slipped “roofies” (date-rape drugs) into her drink, or one night she partied so hard she ended up in a stranger’s bed, completely unaware of what had happened the night before. She may have been attacked or frightened by one of her anonymous online dates.

Another possibility is that Dora had an affair with the wrong man and created an embarrassing situation that motivates her to change her behavior. The one-night stands are losing their appeal.

Dora also may enter drug rehab to change her party lifestyle and discover her sexual addiction in the midst of treatment. In rehab, she has a hard time sticking to the rules and has sex with patients or staff. She may be asked to leave or never really does the work of recovery because of her sexual obsessions. She needs a program that addresses both her drug use and underlying sexual addiction.