Sneaking around and lying to your partner about where you’ve been and who you’ve been spending time with? If your sexual behavior has gone beyond your committed relationship and you find yourself unable or unwilling to give up this compulsivity, you may be on the road to disaster in more ways than one.
As part of the recovery process, addicts will need to develop a powerful mindset to manifest positive life changes. Here are some fun, yet useful affirmations to help aid in the process.
By Korina Jochim, MA, MFT-I
Recently, I had the opportunity to present during the 2010 Society for the advancement of Sexual Health Conference (SASH) in Boston, along with four of SRI’s sexual addiction specialists. The annual conference drew professionals from both the U.S. and international programs who want to continue their education in the emerging field of sexual addiction. My presentation, “Addicted to ‘The Life’? Debunking myths about sex workers, who they are, and how to treat them,” covered a topic that those in our field are not as familiar with.
1. Pick an extended period of celibacy. The top priority for most addicts is to experience a period of celibacy. Celibacy helps the person clear out unmanageability, to feel more alive again, and to reclaim repressed memories of childhood abuse experiences.
By Gregory Pospisil
When working with groups of sex addicts I often inquire if they’ve ever had any drama in their lives. The laughter in the room this time isn’t merely a ripple, it comes on as a full-tilt wave as they all smile and nod their heads in recognition.
By: Korina Jochim, MA, MFTI
Addiction Specialist
As professionals treating sex addicts and their partners, we have observed that certain patterns over time are hallmarks of sexual addiction. We are often struck by the commonality of the stories we hear and in the interest of helping partners recognize some signs that may indicate there is a problem. We have outlined some “red flags” to watch out for below. If your partner consistently demonstrates three or more of these symptoms, he may be a sex and porn addict.
