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Sex Addict's Partners: The Importance of Full Disclosure to Them

Treating Sex Addicts

With sexual addiction it is usually the betrayal of relationship trust caused by consistent lying rather than any specific sexual act that causes the deepest pain to a betrayed spouse or partner. The trauma experienced by a spouse who is forced to live with a sex addict's secrets and lies is usually quite significant. The sudden realization that a long-term intimate partner has been living a double-life filled with sexual infidelity can cause the cheated on partner to question literally everything about his or her relationship, regardless of whether the cheating has been in-person (affairs, prostitutes, sensual massage, anonymous sex, etc.) or online (porn, webcams, social media, dating/hookup websites and apps, etc.).

Sometimes a victim of infidelity begins to doubt her or his own behavior, experiencing guilt, shame, remorse, self-doubt, and more. In other words, betrayed spouses sometimes turn on themselves, blaming themselves and thinking they are the source of the problem. They think: "If only I'd been (nicer, sexier, richer, thinner, smarter, more supportive, etc.) this wouldn't have happened." They may also find themselves examining feelings and misgivings they previously pushed aside, choosing instead to believe the lies they were told. When this occurs they wonder why they opted to ignore their self-protective instincts, and they begin to question their judgment. Oftentimes betrayed partners worry that they'll never be able to regain the trust they need to stay in this or any other relationship. Read more at

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Recovering Sex Addicts & Digital Dating

A lot of sex addicts entering recovery, especially those who are not already in a long-term relationship, worry that they will never again be able to date or have sex. This is not the case. Unlike sobriety for alcoholism and drug addiction, "sexual sobriety" is not defined by ongoing abstinence. Not surprisingly, among the goals of most recovering sex addicts is having a healthy, emotionally rewarding, and enjoyable sexual and romantic life. For many people this means dating – and that typically means some form of online dating.


Eroticized Rage in Sexual Addition

From the time she was 8 until she turned 12, Astrid had been abused by her mother's husband. He was violent with every member of the household, and sexually abusive with the two girls - Astrid and her older sister. He held the family on lockdown for years, recording their phone conversations for "evidence" to use against them, and actively surveilled the girls and their mother. When she was 13, Astrid's mom left her stepfather with the help of a community organization, and after the family got back on their feet, Astrid felt more secure and less vulnerable.


Are Young Women Avoiding Marriage?

Today, for the first time in history, single young women in America are on average better educated and more successful than their male counterparts. They are more likely to attend college, more likely to graduate from college, and they typically make more money when they graduate from college and enter the workforce.

Read more in this Psychology Today blog by our founder Robert Weiss...

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The next Two-Week Intensive Treatment Program begins September 23rd!

The SRI Two-Week Intensive is a program of therapy and education designed to help our clients identify and eliminate all sexual acting out behavior, and to develop the skills and tools needed to prevent sexual relapse.

The Two-Week Intensive Program at SRI is a cost-effective and more time-effective alternative to the traditional 4-6 week hospital stay or residential treatment programs. It is our belief, based on our decades of experience, that most sex addicts do not require a lengthy stay in a controlled environment. Our program offers many similar benefits while minimizing the disruption in our clients' lives.

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Recovering from Infidelity Group

Addiction Specialist Marty Simpson Revell, MA, CSAT-3, hosts a weekly group therapy session focusing on recovering from infidelity. The group helps increase self-awareness leading to a deeper understanding of what causes us to get involved in unhealthy relationships, and what gets in the way of setting healthy boundaries. In addition to the educational component of the group, members have an opportunity to process feelings and benefit from sharing their experience with others in a supportive environment facilitated by an experienced clinician.

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