1. Work for win-win solutions. Shame-based couples tend to look at all issues in terms of right and wrong, and to see all conflicts as ending with a winner and a loser. Search for solutions that make each partner a winner. Seldom is there just one way to do things. Find the alternatives.
A fine line exists between what may be considered by most people acceptable sexual behavior and what is sexually addictive or compulsive. This is especially true for women in a society such as ours where sex is often treated as a commodity. Our culture discourages women from being assertive and direct in the expression of their sexual needs, thereby encouraging a less direct and potentially seductive or manipulative style. Some women go beyond these culturally-sanctioned behaviors and use sex compulsively as a means of gaining power and love.
