Resources for Sex and Love Addicts
If you have a problem with sex addiction, love addiction, or any other intimacy related disorder, there are many online resources that can help. Below are websites that you may find useful.
Sex Addicts Anonymous
SA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
SA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Sexaholics Anonymous
SA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
SA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
SLAA is a sex and love addiction recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
SLAA is a sex and love addiction recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA)
SCA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
SCA is a sexual recovery fellowship based on the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Addiction.com
Addiction.com is a comprehensive website covering all forms of addiction – substance and behavioral alike.
Addiction.com is a comprehensive website covering all forms of addiction – substance and behavioral alike.
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
AASECT offers a great deal of useful information for sex addicts.
AASECT offers a great deal of useful information for sex addicts.
Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers
ATSA offers useful information about sexual abuse.
ATSA offers useful information about sexual abuse.
Drug Addiction Treatment
This comprehensive site on drug addiction includes the latest news and research related to drug addiction treatment.
This comprehensive site on drug addiction includes the latest news and research related to drug addiction treatment.
International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals
IITAP trains and certifies sex addiction treatment specialists. Their website provides information on sex addiction and links to qualified treatment professionals.
IITAP trains and certifies sex addiction treatment specialists. Their website provides information on sex addiction and links to qualified treatment professionals.
RSA Ministries
This is a Christian 12-step recovery program for sex addicts.
This is a Christian 12-step recovery program for sex addicts.
Safersociety.org
This is a national database on sexual issues.
This is a national database on sexual issues.
Sexaddicthelp.com
This is a site maintained by psychotherapists trained in the field of treating sexual addiction and compulsions.
This is a site maintained by psychotherapists trained in the field of treating sexual addiction and compulsions.
SexHelp.com
This is Dr. Patrick Carnes’ page on the IITAP website.
This is Dr. Patrick Carnes’ page on the IITAP website.
Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH provides useful information about a variety of sex-related issues.
SASH provides useful information about a variety of sex-related issues.
Your Brain on Porn
YBOP is a site about digital pornography and what it does to your brain, with suggestions on how to stay away from online porn.
YBOP is a site about digital pornography and what it does to your brain, with suggestions on how to stay away from online porn.
In addition to the websites listed above, sex and love addicts can find useful information in both clinical and self-help books, the best of which are listed below.
Sex Addicts Anonymous
(Anonymous)
(Anonymous)
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
(Anonymous)
(Anonymous)
Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sex Addiction
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
by Dr. Patrick Carnes
Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame
by George Collins and Andrew Adelman
by George Collins and Andrew Adelman
No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction
by Marnie Ferree
by Marnie Ferree
Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships
by Kelly McDaniel
by Kelly McDaniel
Resources for Spouses and Families of Sex and Love Addicts
The websites and books listed above as resources for sex and love addicts are equally useful for their loved ones. Additionally, loved ones might find the following organizations and books helpful.
Recovery Organizations:
Useful Books:
Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps
by Melody Beattie
by Melody Beattie
Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance and Reality
by Dr. Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser, and Mark Laaser
by Dr. Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser, and Mark Laaser
Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
by Dr. Stefanie Carnes
by Dr. Stefanie Carnes
A Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction: A Step-by-Step Plan to Rebuild Trust and Restore Intimacy
by Paldrom Collins and George Collins
by Paldrom Collins and George Collins
Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal
by Dr. M. Deborah Corley and Dr. Jennifer Schneider
by Dr. M. Deborah Corley and Dr. Jennifer Schneider
Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust
by Dr. M. Deborah Corley and Dr. Jennifer Schneider
by Dr. M. Deborah Corley and Dr. Jennifer Schneider
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives
by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, and J. Keith Miller
by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, and J. Keith Miller
Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness (3rd Edition)
by Dr. Jennifer Schneider and Burt Schneider
by Dr. Jennifer Schneider and Burt Schneider
Ratings on Filtering and Accountability Software Products for Use in Sexual Recovery
Below are capsule reviews of the most effective “parental control” software programs, in terms of their usefulness to recovering sex addicts. Also listed are potentially useful products, and products that are not recommended. Of note: None of these products guarantees that an addict will maintain sexual sobriety. Instead, these programs should be viewed as tools that will at least cause an addict to stop and think before bypassing the software and proceeding with a prohibited activity.
Recommended:
Net Nanny,
Estimated Price: $39.99
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS, Android and iOS devices.
Versatile and effective filtering, blocking, recording and reporting features but no screenshot playback; relatively easy to install/configure; usable on almost any device; excellent price.
Estimated Price: $39.99
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS, Android and iOS devices.
Versatile and effective filtering, blocking, recording and reporting features but no screenshot playback; relatively easy to install/configure; usable on almost any device; excellent price.
Norton Family Premiere
Estimated Price: $49.99
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS, Android and iOS.
Above average filtering, blocking, recording and reporting; easy to install/configure; usable on almost any device; reasonable price.
Estimated Price: $49.99
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS, Android and iOS.
Above average filtering, blocking, recording and reporting; easy to install/configure; usable on almost any device; reasonable price.
WebWatcher
Price: $99.95
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS and Android.
Versatile and effective filtering and blocking as well as recording and reporting features; no profanity masking; straightforward installation/configuration; costly compared to other products.
Price: $99.95
Available Platforms: Windows, MacOS and Android.
Versatile and effective filtering and blocking as well as recording and reporting features; no profanity masking; straightforward installation/configuration; costly compared to other products.
Potentially Effective:
CovenantEyes
Price: Separate filtering and accountability programs each costing $9.99/month for an individual; $13.99/month for a family
Price: Separate filtering and accountability programs each costing $9.99/month for an individual; $13.99/month for a family
McAfee Family Protection
Price: $49.99
Price: $49.99
PC Pandora Pro
Price: $69.95
Price: $69.95
Profil Parental Filter 2
Price: $39.99
Price: $39.99
Not Recommended:
Intego Family Protector
Price: $39.99
Price: $39.99
KidsWatch Professional
Price: $45.95
Price: $45.95
PureSight Owl
Price: $39.90
Price: $39.90
| Software | Customizable Filtering |
Customizable Accountability |
PC | MacOS | iOS (phone) |
Android | Overall Rating |
| Net Nanny | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | 5 |
| BSecure Family Safety | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | Yes | Yes | 4.5 |
| McAfee Family Protection | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | Yes | 4.5 |
| Norton Online Family Premier | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | 4.5 |
| AVG Family Safety | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | Yes | Yes | 4 |
| CovenantEyes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Limited | Limited | Yes | 4 |
| Profil Parental Filter 2 | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | Yes | 3.5 |
| eBlaster | Limited | Yes | Yes | No | No | Yes | 3 |
| CyberPatrol | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | Yes | 3 |
| CYBERSitter | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | No | 2.5 |
| KidsWatch | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | No | 2.5 |
| Puresight PC | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | No | 2.5 |
| Sentry PC | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | No | 2.5 |
| imView | Limited | Yes | Yes | No | No | No | 2 |
| WebWatcher | No | Yes | Yes | Yes | No | No | 2 |
Resources for Sex Offenders, Their Loved Ones, and Treatment Specialists
Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers
ATSA is an international, multi-disciplinary organization dedicated to preventing sexual abuse.
ATSA is an international, multi-disciplinary organization dedicated to preventing sexual abuse.
B4U-ACT
This site provides information and peer support for those who self-identify as being sexually attracted to children, plus education for mental health providers treating such individuals.
This site provides information and peer support for those who self-identify as being sexually attracted to children, plus education for mental health providers treating such individuals.
Citizens for Second Chances
This is a Michigan-based support group for families of sex offenders and those accused of sex offenses.
This is a Michigan-based support group for families of sex offenders and those accused of sex offenses.
CROGA.ORG
This site provides self-help resources for people worried about downloading and using illegal imagery (primarily child porn).
This site provides self-help resources for people worried about downloading and using illegal imagery (primarily child porn).
International Association for the Treatment of Sexual Offenders
IATSO is an international nonprofit organization committed to the promotion of research about and treatment for sexual offenders.
IATSO is an international nonprofit organization committed to the promotion of research about and treatment for sexual offenders.
Internet Behavior Consulting
IBC provides a wide variety of information about cybersex issues.
IBC provides a wide variety of information about cybersex issues.
Safer Society Foundation
Safer Society engages survivors, treatment professionals, perpetrators and others to create evidence-based strategies for preventing future sexual abuse.
Safer Society engages survivors, treatment professionals, perpetrators and others to create evidence-based strategies for preventing future sexual abuse.
Sex Offender Help
This is an online community devoted to preventing sex crimes by embracing a rational and loving approach to the treatment of damaged individuals who act out in illegal ways.
This is an online community devoted to preventing sex crimes by embracing a rational and loving approach to the treatment of damaged individuals who act out in illegal ways.
Sex Offender Resource
This site offers resources and information for registered sex offenders and their loved ones.
This site offers resources and information for registered sex offenders and their loved ones.
Sex Offender Treatment
This is the official journal of the International Association for the Treatment for Sexual Offenders.
This is the official journal of the International Association for the Treatment for Sexual Offenders.
Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH is a nonprofit organization dedicated to sexual health, including overcoming problematic sexual behaviors such as sex addiction and sexual offending.
SASH is a nonprofit organization dedicated to sexual health, including overcoming problematic sexual behaviors such as sex addiction and sexual offending.
Virtuous Pedophiles
This is a self-help organization for men and women who are sexually attracted to children but determined never to act on that.
This is a self-help organization for men and women who are sexually attracted to children but determined never to act on that.
Women Against Registry
This organization gives a voice to family members of registered sex offenders and argues that offender registries are an excessive form of punishment that makes communities less safe.
This organization gives a voice to family members of registered sex offenders and argues that offender registries are an excessive form of punishment that makes communities less safe.