Over the Borderline: Narcissist Nancy

Nancy falls in and out of love fast. At first she idolizes a man, sometimes stalking him. She idealizes him and begins to obsess; that is, until he does some small thing that disappoints her. Then she tosses him aside and searches for the next one. If a man breaks it off with her before she’s ready to toss him away, she becomes desperate and might threaten to hurt herself if he leaves her.

Her penchant for the dramatic leaves Nancy in search of unavailable men. Some are addicted to drugs; some are married; others are abusive toward her. In the end, all that really matters is that Nancy gets what she wants. Her need for power and control manifest in seduction, manipulation and any other means to get men to want her.

Why She Seeks Treatment

Nancy might get arrested for stalking someone, or maybe someone gets a restraining order against her. She may become depressed when she realizes how many good relationships she has thrown away. Nancy may even go into treatment to save a relationship. Her recovery will start the day she realizes she’s the problem, not the relationship.