Desire For Sex And Satisfaction; Linked to Level of Partner’s Insecurity

People who want to have a strong sexual desire and a great sex life may want to set aside concerns about their level of physical fitness or even their level of sexual know-how.

A person’s level of security within their relationship with their intimate partner is a strong factor in sexual satisfaction, says a recent study. Additionally, people who show a controlling nature within the relationship may not have as much desire for sex, nor be as happy with their sex lives.

A team from the psychology and sexuality department, University of Basque Country, also says people who have problems with insecurity or with avoiding negative emotions, may have more problems with desire for sex and sexual satisfaction.

Researchers say in a recent article that insecurity is linked to a tendency for more compulsive behaviors toward a romantic partner, as well as controlling tendencies, and these can squelch desire for sex. Findings come from a study of more than 200 committed romantic couples, with subgroups created based on how secure or insecure the people in the relationships felt with their partner.

Couples where a partner was more insecure had more problems when it came to that partner showing a need for emotional support from their partner during anxious times or times of stress. The ability to ask for support, say researchers, is very important in the couple, as is the ability to also be the person who provides the support when needed.

When one part of the couple has anxious personality, and the other has a tendency to avoid conflict, the greatest likelihood for dissatisfaction occurred, which is also connected to sexual desire and satisfaction.

As researchers learn more about complex conditions like sexual addiction and the factors that cause it, research into the patterns of romantic couples may help them better understand why some people turn to sex with multiple partners as a way of escape or avoidance. The research can also be applied to expert beliefs that many people with sexual addiction may have deep-seeded emotional insecurities, and that the behavior becomes a tool for coping with these feelings.