Although it’s a "virtual" sexual encounter, the addictive power and destructive capacities of cybersex are still very real. The growth in Internet technologies has spurred thousands of new sex and pornography websites that can be accessed from anywhere, anytime with anonymity, creating an environment where millions of adults find themselves addicted to cybersex.
Who uses pornographic material online more often: men or women? Surprising reports are showing that women are closing the gap on men in their frequency of using online porn and addiction to online porn.
Honesty – or the lack thereof – related to men’s use of pornography and paid sexual services is the subject of several eye-opening reports. One report describes how most men conceal their use of pornography or use of services like strip clubs from their female partners, making true information on the subject of men paying for sex difficult to find.
When an author set out to learn more about the porn culture in the U.S., she was surprised to learn that the use of porn affects all walks of life and all societal groups. In almost every case, the use of porn destroyed personal relationships brought declining sexual satisfaction and profoundly altered the ways men and women acted upon expectations for each other.
“This stuff comes barreling down the generations like a locomotive.” So said a man I’ll call Ted. Because so many sex addicts lead a double life, a “secret” life, they may believe (and their partners may believe) that their younger school-age children are not directly affected. Ted knows better. He’s a tall, good looking, successful 45 year old recovering sex addict. He remembers that when he was a kid growing up his father had a second home down the street from where the family lived which the father used to house his “girlfriends”. Kids know what’s going on, even young kids, and they know when something isn’t right. It affects them and skews their sense of what constitutes normal relating in ways they can’t understand or verbalize at the time.
Los Angeles, CA (Businesss Wire) May 20, 2010 – The Sexual Recovery Institute, the leading outpatient recovery center for sexual addiction and intimacy disorders in the United States, has announced that founding director Robert Weiss has been chosen as a faculty member for the first annual West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders (WCSAD). The symposium, hosted by C4 Recovery Solutions in partnership with RecoveryView.com, will be held at the La Quinta Resort & Club in La Quinta, CA from June 3-5, 2010.
After the release of an L.A. Times article on the allegations against the SEC, I thought I’d take some time to share my thoughts on the implications and real cost of sex addiction. After all, this is the face of sexual addiction in America today. This is how this disease affects all of us. When SEC government employees are spending hundreds of hours looking at thousands of porn images instead of doing their jobs, the negative impact is nearly unfathomable.
Rob Weiss has been confirmed to speak at the BFI Summit on “Advanced Clinical Training for Therapists and Counselors” held in Savannah, Georgia from March 4-6, 2010. His Saturday morning keynote will be titled, “Lettermans and Tigers and Sanfords, Oh my: Understanding the Treatment of Serial Infidelity, Sex, Porn and Love Addiction.” The following is a description:
Los Angeles, CA (February 23, 2010) – Rob Weiss, founder and director of the Sexual Recovery Institute, will be speaking at the Los Angeles chapter of CAMFT’s networking event held at the Beverly Hills Country Club on Saturday, February 27, 2010.
I have spent the past 15 years of my professional life treating sexual addiction. Back when I started this work, those of us working with sex addicts were more often challenged in the media and in professional communities to “prove” that the diagnosis of sexual addiction actually existed, rather than encouraged to discuss how the problem is diagnosed or solved. The Internet has changed all of that. There are now so many men and women simply checked out day after day from their work, families and social lives from hours spent online – viewing porn, researching and hooking up with prostitutes or finding anonymous sex partners, so many lives are now affected, that question has moved from “is there really such a thing as sex addiction?” to “ok there is a problem, what can we do about it?”
