By: Terry Gatewood, ASW, MSW
It is difficult for many people to fit therapy into their daily lives. Things come up and a patient simply will not be able to commit to a therapy session. When this happens we turn to Skype.
By: Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S
Once considered fodder for daytime talk shows and grocery store literature, today Sexual Addiction is increasingly acknowledged by the psychotherapeutic mainstream and the general public as a legitimate disorder with specific assessment criteria and a defined method of treatment.
These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. They may be particularly helpful to newcomers as they begin to understand codependence and may aid those who have been in recovery, in determining what traits still need attention and transformation.
1. Pick an extended period of celibacy. The top priority for most addicts is to experience a period of celibacy. Celibacy helps the person clear out unmanageability, to feel more alive again, and to reclaim repressed memories of childhood abuse experiences.
Los Angeles, CA (Businesss Wire) May 20, 2010 – The Sexual Recovery Institute, the leading outpatient recovery center for sexual addiction and intimacy disorders in the United States, has announced that founding director Robert Weiss has been chosen as a faculty member for the first annual West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders (WCSAD). The symposium, hosted by C4 Recovery Solutions in partnership with RecoveryView.com, will be held at the La Quinta Resort & Club in La Quinta, CA from June 3-5, 2010.
LOS ANGELES–(BUSINESS WIRE)–The Sexual Recovery Institute (SRI), founded by Robert Weiss in 1995 and known throughout the U.S. as the leading outpatient sexual addiction (SA) recovery center, has released a series of informational videos intended to reach consumers seeking help and direction toward healing from sex addiction.
Because of the differences between shame and guilt (who I am versus what I did), people respond to each emotion differently.
Guilt, because it emphasizes what someone did wrong, tends to elicit more constructive responses, particularly responses that seek to mend the damage done. Guilt is tied to beliefs about what is wrong, moral and immoral. When we violate one of these moral guidelines, it causes us to feel guilty over our actions and seek to fix what we have done. As a result, guilt is an important tool in maintaining standards of right and wrong in individuals and society as a whole. As such, guilt can often be used as a tool to overcome conflict.
The saying, “There is nothing worse than a reformed smoker” applies even more intensely when dealing with sexual addicts. While it is true that early recovery requires a clear and well-defined sexual plan and often may require a period of celibacy, I never cease to be amazed by the degree of judgment, sexual anorexia and fear that can be generated by sex addicts who actually chose to engage in some form of sex in their early part of recovery.
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Become a young sports superstar. Make sure your family teaches you the importance of being loved for performance, rather than who you are. Improve upon your talent but stop growing emotionally.
While men often joke that they wouldn’t mind being “sex addicts,” women tend to think sexual addiction is just an excuse for bad behavior. Clinicians and those who’ve been working in the field for some time now know that it is in fact very serious and not a cop out or something anyone would actually want.
